Last night, well, this whole weekend was pretty crazy.
I have not been single for that long (about 6-months), so I'm still getting into the groove. This weekend, lots of alcohol was involved and I'm learning quickly that if I am going to hook a guy at a bar, I need to be hanging out with just girls and no guys. What kind of guy would want to hit on me when there's a potential boyfriend/guy who is into me sitting next to me?
Last night, I saw a lot of cute guys. LOTS. But, I'm trying to figure out how to flirt still. Isn't that strange? Not knowing how to flirt? It turns out that as a 27-year old, I'm rather shy when it comes to the opposite sex. Back in my late teens/early 20's, I could make the first move and talk to a guy pretty easily. Now, I have trouble doing that because I want them to come to me.
I want a guy to approach me, to be old fashioned and make the first move. Is that the correct assumption or should I approach a guy that I'm interested in?
So many questions and I really wish this came easy for me, but it doesn't.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Monday, November 21, 2011
The end of Tall-POF
The day after the date with Tall-POF, we texted a little back and forth. I made the mistake of texting him first (was it a mistake?) and just went from there. He's very kind and proper and texted me back. He did not leave me hanging. However, it's Monday night and he hasn't texted me all day. I'm guessing he's just not that into me?
I'm okay with the fact that this probably won't work out, and maybe I'm a bitch for saying this, but I wish I was the one to let him down, not the other way around. From his perspective, he probably thinks I'm interested because I texted him yesterday.
Whatever. I think it's over, not like it lasted long or anything. What sucks now is that I don't have any immediate prospects. I went ahead and joined Match.com after coming to terms with the fact that POF is for sheeves. So far so good.. I've gotten some "winks" and a couple emails, but no one I'm head over heels for yet. I've emailed a couple people who I thought would respond, but they haven't. That's a little disappointing, but I guess expected. I mean, what did I expect? To have guys fawning all over me?
Dating sucks, sometimes.
How is your dating life?
Natasha
I'm okay with the fact that this probably won't work out, and maybe I'm a bitch for saying this, but I wish I was the one to let him down, not the other way around. From his perspective, he probably thinks I'm interested because I texted him yesterday.
Whatever. I think it's over, not like it lasted long or anything. What sucks now is that I don't have any immediate prospects. I went ahead and joined Match.com after coming to terms with the fact that POF is for sheeves. So far so good.. I've gotten some "winks" and a couple emails, but no one I'm head over heels for yet. I've emailed a couple people who I thought would respond, but they haven't. That's a little disappointing, but I guess expected. I mean, what did I expect? To have guys fawning all over me?
Dating sucks, sometimes.
How is your dating life?
Natasha
Saturday, November 19, 2011
First date, as advertised
We said we would meet at 8:15. I arrived at 8:20, fashionably late as always. Tall-POF (nickname) was in the parking lot waiting for me. We decided to meet outside in order to be less obvious inside. I joked that we wouldn't want to be the couple the wait staff looks at all night because they know we met online.
When I saw him in the parking lot, from far away, he was exactly "as advertised." Very tall, muscular, fit, etc. He's very handsome and comes off gentle. I could tell he was checking me out, but I couldn't figure out what his reaction was. But, I can tell you that I didn't feel out of my league. In fact, I felt pretty hot last night.
He opened the restaurant door for me, and took charge to get us a table. We waited for 20 minutes and as we waited, he ran into a friend he knew from work. They chatted for a good 2-minutes with no introduction on his part (bad sign?). After awhile, his friend introduced himself and there was a nice awkward joke about it. I can't be annoyed though, we just met 5 minutes ago!
(Awkward side note: It was at this point that I looked over to the bar and saw a guy I had talked to before on POF... just some online flirting but I would never go on a date with him. He didn't seem polite online so he certainly wouldn't be in person! How awkward is that? I don't think he saw or recognized me but I still think it was odd.)
Dinner was uneventful, unfortunately. It turns out that the restaurant he took me too was really nice. The prices were steep and we ordered appetizers and drinks. Very classy on his part. The conversation flowed, with only a few pauses, but nothing too awkward. The two beers I ordered helped.
I did notice him checking out my rack on numerous points at dinner. He tried to be discreet, but a woman always knows.
Soon, two hours flowed on by and it was time for us to leave. He walked me all the way to my car, which was farther out than his. We hugged and it wasn't awkward at all.
And, that was it.
My gut is saying that while he's a great guy, he may be more of friend-material. However, he could also be one of those guys that it takes awhile to get to know if there's chemistry or not. He may be too gentle for my liking...
I suspected he would have texted me yesterday or this morning, but he hasn't. Either he's playing it cool or he isn't really interested, which is cool. I'll keep you updated.
When I saw him in the parking lot, from far away, he was exactly "as advertised." Very tall, muscular, fit, etc. He's very handsome and comes off gentle. I could tell he was checking me out, but I couldn't figure out what his reaction was. But, I can tell you that I didn't feel out of my league. In fact, I felt pretty hot last night.
He opened the restaurant door for me, and took charge to get us a table. We waited for 20 minutes and as we waited, he ran into a friend he knew from work. They chatted for a good 2-minutes with no introduction on his part (bad sign?). After awhile, his friend introduced himself and there was a nice awkward joke about it. I can't be annoyed though, we just met 5 minutes ago!
(Awkward side note: It was at this point that I looked over to the bar and saw a guy I had talked to before on POF... just some online flirting but I would never go on a date with him. He didn't seem polite online so he certainly wouldn't be in person! How awkward is that? I don't think he saw or recognized me but I still think it was odd.)
Dinner was uneventful, unfortunately. It turns out that the restaurant he took me too was really nice. The prices were steep and we ordered appetizers and drinks. Very classy on his part. The conversation flowed, with only a few pauses, but nothing too awkward. The two beers I ordered helped.
I did notice him checking out my rack on numerous points at dinner. He tried to be discreet, but a woman always knows.
Soon, two hours flowed on by and it was time for us to leave. He walked me all the way to my car, which was farther out than his. We hugged and it wasn't awkward at all.
And, that was it.
My gut is saying that while he's a great guy, he may be more of friend-material. However, he could also be one of those guys that it takes awhile to get to know if there's chemistry or not. He may be too gentle for my liking...
I suspected he would have texted me yesterday or this morning, but he hasn't. Either he's playing it cool or he isn't really interested, which is cool. I'll keep you updated.
Friday, November 18, 2011
Is this first date in my league?
A couple months ago, I decided to join the most classy dating website on the face of the planet: Plenty of Fish (POF). I really hope you sense my sarcasm.
I joined it because my single girl friend recommended it. She said you have to weed through bunches of skeeves to actually find good guys. I joined because it's free. I can weed through whatever if I don't have to pay for it.
Earlier this week, I ended up "meeting" this great guy on POF. We ended up chatting online for about 3-hours. THREE HOURS. The next day, we did the same. Then, he called me and we talked for about an hour. During those few days, he emailed me during the day. They weren't stupid one-sentencers either. They were well thought out emails asking me about my life, family, job, etc. I may have found a non-sheeve! Woo-hoo.
Then, on Wednesday, he asked me out. For tonight. He actually took initiative, picked a time and place and made sure that was okay with me. I love him already (too soon?). We are doing dinner at a local chain restaurant in a very busy area of Cleveland.
I'm nervous.
The reason I'm nervous is because he is hot + tall + muscular. My formula for a perfect man. I usually have pretty good self-esteem, despite my curves sometimes giving me a blurry vision of myself. But, I usually date down. Does that make sense? I've realized this about myself and it kinda creeps me out. I guess what I'm trying to say is:
I don't know who's in my league.
Without sounding egotistical, I want to tell you a quick story. A couple years ago, I brought my then-boyfriend out to lunch with a co-worker. We had fun and that was it. Fast forward to when we broke up, and I was talking with my co-worker. Hesitantly, she confessed that when she met my ex-bf for lunch she was surprised and thought I could do better.
(Side note: This is probably the best thing you could tell someone going through a break-up.)
I don't mean to tell you this story because I think I'm hot shit. It's the exact opposite. Did I date "down?" Could I do "better?" How do you know who is "in your league?" And, am I completely shallow for even thinking about this?
Tonight, I'm going with an open-mind. I'm going to try and pretend that maybe I am too hot for this guy. I need any confidence I can find!
I'll be back with a full report.
Natasha
I joined it because my single girl friend recommended it. She said you have to weed through bunches of skeeves to actually find good guys. I joined because it's free. I can weed through whatever if I don't have to pay for it.
Earlier this week, I ended up "meeting" this great guy on POF. We ended up chatting online for about 3-hours. THREE HOURS. The next day, we did the same. Then, he called me and we talked for about an hour. During those few days, he emailed me during the day. They weren't stupid one-sentencers either. They were well thought out emails asking me about my life, family, job, etc. I may have found a non-sheeve! Woo-hoo.
Then, on Wednesday, he asked me out. For tonight. He actually took initiative, picked a time and place and made sure that was okay with me. I love him already (too soon?). We are doing dinner at a local chain restaurant in a very busy area of Cleveland.
I'm nervous.
The reason I'm nervous is because he is hot + tall + muscular. My formula for a perfect man. I usually have pretty good self-esteem, despite my curves sometimes giving me a blurry vision of myself. But, I usually date down. Does that make sense? I've realized this about myself and it kinda creeps me out. I guess what I'm trying to say is:
I don't know who's in my league.
Without sounding egotistical, I want to tell you a quick story. A couple years ago, I brought my then-boyfriend out to lunch with a co-worker. We had fun and that was it. Fast forward to when we broke up, and I was talking with my co-worker. Hesitantly, she confessed that when she met my ex-bf for lunch she was surprised and thought I could do better.
(Side note: This is probably the best thing you could tell someone going through a break-up.)
I don't mean to tell you this story because I think I'm hot shit. It's the exact opposite. Did I date "down?" Could I do "better?" How do you know who is "in your league?" And, am I completely shallow for even thinking about this?
Tonight, I'm going with an open-mind. I'm going to try and pretend that maybe I am too hot for this guy. I need any confidence I can find!
I'll be back with a full report.
Natasha
Thursday, November 17, 2011
The rules of dating (when you are in your late twenties and clueless)
Hi,
Let me be clear on one thing: the last time I was single, I could get wasted and still go to work the next day. I was 22 and things were different. The rules of dating have changed and my mind is spinning even typing out the word "rules," because there are a ton of them. Basically, some bastard in American history created these dating rules in order to mess with our minds.
Trust me. I'm sure there are tons of you freaking out right now, not knowing what I'm even talking about. The people freaking out are the ones who are in relationships. You have forgotten, or like me, the last time you were single was in your early 20's.
I bet my single friends out there are just nodding their heads.
You see, in college, things were different. You dated someone that you thought was "good enough" or "so hot you just wanted to bang all night." You never thought about the future, or if that guy would pay his bills on time. You were blissfully in love and didn't give a rats ass about the future other than your stupid fairy tale wedding you dreamed about.
When you met that blissful hot piece of man, if the feeling was mutual, you would start dating. No games. No nonsense. Just go for it. Then several years later... you might break up and be exactly where I am right now.
CLUELESS.
There are a TON of dating rules that I've had to learn about, and quick. These rules require quick thinking, being calm, and disregarding anything you learned in General Psychology 101.
Questions I have asked myself and my poor friends who have to put up with me recently...
- Is he going to call?
- If he is going to call, when will he call?
- Does a text message count for the 3-day rule?
- So, if he texted me, does that mean I call him?
- How long should I wait to text him back after he texts me?
- If I text him first, do I seem desperate?
- If he is flakey, do I still let him eat me out?
All legitimate questions... and unfortunately, I have no clue what the answers are. I wish I did. Hopefully, you guys (well, like my one reader), will make me feel less stupid and more human. What are the rules?
Kisses,
Natasha
Let me be clear on one thing: the last time I was single, I could get wasted and still go to work the next day. I was 22 and things were different. The rules of dating have changed and my mind is spinning even typing out the word "rules," because there are a ton of them. Basically, some bastard in American history created these dating rules in order to mess with our minds.
Trust me. I'm sure there are tons of you freaking out right now, not knowing what I'm even talking about. The people freaking out are the ones who are in relationships. You have forgotten, or like me, the last time you were single was in your early 20's.
I bet my single friends out there are just nodding their heads.
You see, in college, things were different. You dated someone that you thought was "good enough" or "so hot you just wanted to bang all night." You never thought about the future, or if that guy would pay his bills on time. You were blissfully in love and didn't give a rats ass about the future other than your stupid fairy tale wedding you dreamed about.
When you met that blissful hot piece of man, if the feeling was mutual, you would start dating. No games. No nonsense. Just go for it. Then several years later... you might break up and be exactly where I am right now.
CLUELESS.
There are a TON of dating rules that I've had to learn about, and quick. These rules require quick thinking, being calm, and disregarding anything you learned in General Psychology 101.
Questions I have asked myself
- Is he going to call?
- If he is going to call, when will he call?
- Does a text message count for the 3-day rule?
- So, if he texted me, does that mean I call him?
- How long should I wait to text him back after he texts me?
- If I text him first, do I seem desperate?
- If he is flakey, do I still let him eat me out?
All legitimate questions... and unfortunately, I have no clue what the answers are. I wish I did. Hopefully, you guys (well, like my one reader), will make me feel less stupid and more human. What are the rules?
Kisses,
Natasha
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
I already have a blog...
...but I can't post about my dating life on there since my whole family reads it.
Things to know about me:
- Let's call me, Natasha, because I'd rather go by an actual name rather than "anonymous."
- I am 27 years old
- Previously, I was in a long-term relationship that I just got out of (THANK YOU, LORD)
- I'm anonymous for a reason... so, if you find out who I am, will you just kindly email me to let me know? I'd really appreciate that.
- I live in Cleveland, Ohio (and live for the Browns, even though they suck)
- I love being single, not gonna lie. I'm enjoying playing the dating game
- I have way too many stories to keep track of... so, before I find the man of my dreams, I at least want to document all the coo-coo's out there who make me question all humanity
- I can be a freak
- My new Twitter account just isn't giving me all that I need, hence why I started this blog.
It's nice to meet you, Cleveland.
Natasha
Things to know about me:
- Let's call me, Natasha, because I'd rather go by an actual name rather than "anonymous."
- I am 27 years old
- Previously, I was in a long-term relationship that I just got out of (THANK YOU, LORD)
- I'm anonymous for a reason... so, if you find out who I am, will you just kindly email me to let me know? I'd really appreciate that.
- I live in Cleveland, Ohio (and live for the Browns, even though they suck)
- I love being single, not gonna lie. I'm enjoying playing the dating game
- I have way too many stories to keep track of... so, before I find the man of my dreams, I at least want to document all the coo-coo's out there who make me question all humanity
- I can be a freak
- My new Twitter account just isn't giving me all that I need, hence why I started this blog.
It's nice to meet you, Cleveland.
Natasha
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